Marriage Poem by Savita Tyagi

Marriage is definitely not all roses and sweetness. Takes two to make it truly be successful. Two working together.

my first reaction is my thought wow..........a little wow, but a wow nonetheless. you packed a lot of observations about marriage, and its sometimes dissolution, into this poem. it gave me reason to very briefly think about my four marriages (3 divorces) . i didn't get the part about 7 years; must be an indian thing? (i now have see mention of it in another comment.) only one of my marriages lasted over seven years (so far) . Weaker side lost in power struggle...........although i am the MAN, i have come to a comfortable understanding (not usually, if ever, stated aloud) that my current wife is the MAN, and i am the DOG. bow-wow. so i sometimes bow to her insistence that i (at least pretend to) be sorry for my bad behavior. hey! whatever works! ! yes, perfection-in-marriage is probably a misnomer. but i DO have three (out of four) siblings who each have never been divorced AND have been married for 25-40 + years. well done! my parents stayed (most of the time) together for over 60 years. double well done! ! i heartily agree that respect (or a semblance of respect) is VERY important to keeping a marriage going smoothly. as for the pain of parting ways, i have been very lucky in that i have not felt pain. some inconvenience for sure, but no pain. it is hard for me to feel pain at the breaking up of something that had become painful for one or both parties in the marriage. i just bided my time until another sucker...........i mean lovely woman came along. i could have just lived with women (not married them) as my dear mom counseled me to do after my first divorce! but i have a theory (for me at least) that if i did not go through a marriage ceremony (even if only a few people were there to witness it) and wear a wedding band on my finger, it would be TOO EASY to just say f++k it, and break up with a partner. no bothersome divorce to go through (and sometimes pay for) . companionship, for me, is key, but i can replace a companion pretty easily. well, not TOO easily. so there! thanks for sharing. bri :)

A nice poem. Why don't you write a poem on the seven commitments around the fire at the time of a hindu marriage, or please send it to me, I knew it but now I have forgotten. I would love to write a poem on these commitments.

Thank you all for your support and very wise comments. Some time it is hurtful to see marriages being dissolved over small things.

Nothing is perfect.... So is marriage! But as Colleen has rightly said, the two working together in harmony can make it beautiful...Adjustment and adaptation are needed...But It shouldn't be insisted on from one side alone... You have drawn a very realistic picture! Enjoyed!

But nothing is perfect Time changed the balance Causes of disappearance of love are nicely analyzed in the poem. Thank you.