I don't want her to have a cat because she'll end up talking baby talk to the cat. That's the way it is, and how can a P.I. do that?
(Sue Grafton (b. 1940), U.S. mystery novelist. As quoted in the New York Times, p. C10 (August 4, 1994).
On why Kinsey Millhone, the private-investigator heroine of her popular series of mystery novels, will never have a cat.)
Cultural expectations shade and color the images that parents- to-be form. The baby product ads, showing a woman serenely holding her child, looking blissfully and mysteriously contented, or the television parents, wisely and humorously solving problems, influence parents-to-be.
(Ellen Galinsky (20th century), U.S. author and researcher. Between Generations, ch. 1 (1981).)
But it is a myth to assume that the larger amount of early stimulation you provide, the more beneficial it will be. The truth is that babies can be overstimulatedwhich is what many parents, intent on beginning to groom their progeny for college in the cradle, end up doing.
(Julius Segal (20th century), U.S. psychologist, author. "10 Myths About Child Development," Parents (July 1989).)
The first time many women hold their tiny babies, they are apt to feel as clumsy and incompetent as any man. The difference is that our culture tells them they're not supposed to feel that way. Our culture assumes that they will quickly learn how to be a mother, and that assumption rubs off on most womenso they learn.
(Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. journalist and author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 6 (1988 rev. 1994).)
Many people have an oversimplified picture of bonding that could be called the "epoxy" theory of relationships...if you don't get properly "glued" to your babies at exactly the right time, which only occurs very soon after birth, then you will have missed your chance.
(Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 2 (1988 rev. 1994).)
In spite of our worries to the contrary, children are still being born with the innate ability to learn spontaneously, and neither they nor their parents need the sixteen-page instructional manual that came with a rattle ordered for our baby boy!
(Neil Kurshan (20th century), U.S. rabbi. Raising Your Child to Be a Mensch, ch. 3 (1987).)