I say to you: we must still have chaos within us to be able to give birth to a dancing star. I say to you: you still have chaos within you.
(Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900), German philosopher, classical scholar, critic of culture. Friedrich Nietzsche, Sämtliche Werke: Kritische Studienausgabe, vol. 4, p. 19, eds. Giorgio Colli and Mazzino Montinari, Berlin, de Gruyter (1980). Zarathustra, in Thus Spoke Zarathustra, First Part, "Prologue," section 5 (1883).)
Many people have an oversimplified picture of bonding that could be called the "epoxy" theory of relationships...if you don't get properly "glued" to your babies at exactly the right time, which only occurs very soon after birth, then you will have missed your chance.
(Pamela Patrick Novotny (20th century), U.S. author. The Joy of Twins, ch. 2 (1988 rev. 1994).)
The naive notion that a mother naturally acquires the complex skills of childrearing simply because she has given birth now seems as absurd to me as enrolling in a nine-month class in composition and imagining that at the end of the course you are now prepared to begin writing War and Peace.
(Mary Kay Blakely (20th century), U.S. journalist, essayist, author and mother. American Mom, ch. 1 (1994).)