A society in which adults are estranged from the world of children, and often from their own childhood, tends to hear children's speech only as a foreign language, or as a lie.... Children have been treated ... as congenital fibbers, fakers and fantasisers.
Indeed, there are no easy correlations between parental ideology, class or race and "successful" child development. Many children the world over have revealed a kind of toughness and plasticity that make the determined efforts of some parents to spare their children the slightest pain seem ironic.
(Robert Coles (20th century), U.S. child psychiatrist. Children of Crisis, ch. 9 (1964).)
We are playing with fire when we skip the years of three, four, and five to hurry children into being age six.... Every child has a right to his fifth year of life, his fourth year, his third year. He has a right to live each year with joy and self-fulfillment. No one should ever claim the power to make a child mortgage his today for the sake of tomorrow.
(James L. Hymes, Jr. (20th century), U.S. child development specialist, author. Teaching the Child Under Six, ch. 2 (1968).)
Hopefulness is the heartbeat of the relationship between a parent and child. Each time a child overcomes the next challenge of his life, his triumph encourages new growth in his parents. In this sense a child is parent to his mother and father.
(Louise J. Kaplan (20th century), U.S. psychologist. Oneness and Separateness: From Infant to Individual, ch. 1 (1978).)
Whether the child is the father's or someone else's, if a man is involved in the physical care of his child before the age of three, there is a dramatic reduction in the probability that that man will be involved later in life in sexual abuse of children in general as well as his own.
(Kyle D. Pruett (20th century), professor, child psychiatrist. The Nurturing Father, ch. 2 (1987).)
We do not raise our children alone.... Our children are also raised by every peer, institution, and family with which they come in contact. Yet parents today expect to be blamed for whatever results occur with their children, and they expect to do their parenting alone.
(Richard Louv (20th century), U.S. journalist, author. Childhood's Future, part 1, ch. 3 (1991).)
When we raise our children, we relive our childhood. Forgotten memories, painful and pleasurable, rise to the surface.... So each of us thinks, almost daily, of how our own childhood compares with our children's, and of what our children's future will hold.
(Richard Louv (20th century), U.S. journalist, author. Childhood's Future, part 1, ch. 1 (1991).)
Children who are not spoken to by live and responsive adults will not learn to speak properly. Children who are not answered will stop asking questions. They will become incurious. And children who are not told stories and who are not read to will have few reasons for wanting to learn to read.
(Gail Haley (20th century). Quoted in The New Read-Aloud Handbook, by Jim Trelease (1985).)
The childless experts on child raising also bring tears of laughter to my eyes when they say, "I love children because they're so honest." There is not an agent in the CIA or the KGB who knows how to conceal the theft of food, how to fake being asleep, or how to forge a parent's signature like a child.
(Bill Cosby (20th century), U.S. comedian. Fatherhood, ch. 5 (1986).)
No parent should strive to be like another; just like our children, each of us is unique. And just as we love each of our children for being a special person, our children learn to love each of us for being a distinct parent and person.
(Saf Lerman (20th century), U.S. parenting specialist and writer. Helping Children as They Grow, ch. 1 (1983).)