If a child is feeling disappointed, angry, or afraid about something, you can be sympathetic and understanding. But you don't need to get into your child's shoes and become disappointed, angry, or afraid yourself. Parents help by standing by their children, not by taking over their children's moods and feelings.
(Saf Lerman (20th century), U.S. parenting specialist and writer. Helping Children as They Grow, ch. 1 (1983).)
No child ever has too much self-esteem. If you take every possible opportunity to point out what children do well, praise them descriptively for it and express appreciation, your child will become more cooperative, competent and confident.
(Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Loving Your Child Is Not Enough, ch. 6 (1987).)
When children are physically hurting each other, we can't let them "work it out themselves." Just as we stop a child from touching a hot stove or running in the street, we need to protect one child from the otherfor the sake of both.
(Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Loving Your Child Is Not Enough, ch. 8 (1987).)
It is easy to lose confidence in our natural ability to raise children. The true techniques for raising children are simple: Be with them, play with them, talk to them. You are not squandering their time no matter what the latest child development books say about "purposeful play" and "cognitive learning skills."
(Neil Kurshan (20th century), U.S. rabbi. Raising Your Child to Be a Mensch, ch. 3 (1987).)
Awareness has changed so that every act for children, every piece of legislation recognizes that children are part of families and that it is within families that children grow and thriveor don't.
(Bernice Weissbourd (20th century), U.S. president and fellow of Family Focus. "The Maturing Family Support Movement: Shaping Practice and Policy for the '90's," Family Resource Coalition Report (1988).
Excerpts from the speech delivered to the Family Resource Coalition Conference (October 1988).)
A society in which adults are estranged from the world of children, and often from their own childhood, tends to hear children's speech only as a foreign language, or as a lie.... Children have been treated ... as congenital fibbers, fakers and fantasisers.
Indeed, there are no easy correlations between parental ideology, class or race and "successful" child development. Many children the world over have revealed a kind of toughness and plasticity that make the determined efforts of some parents to spare their children the slightest pain seem ironic.
(Robert Coles (20th century), U.S. child psychiatrist. Children of Crisis, ch. 9 (1964).)
We are playing with fire when we skip the years of three, four, and five to hurry children into being age six.... Every child has a right to his fifth year of life, his fourth year, his third year. He has a right to live each year with joy and self-fulfillment. No one should ever claim the power to make a child mortgage his today for the sake of tomorrow.
(James L. Hymes, Jr. (20th century), U.S. child development specialist, author. Teaching the Child Under Six, ch. 2 (1968).)
Hopefulness is the heartbeat of the relationship between a parent and child. Each time a child overcomes the next challenge of his life, his triumph encourages new growth in his parents. In this sense a child is parent to his mother and father.
(Louise J. Kaplan (20th century), U.S. psychologist. Oneness and Separateness: From Infant to Individual, ch. 1 (1978).)