When children are physically hurting each other, we can't let them "work it out themselves." Just as we stop a child from touching a hot stove or running in the street, we need to protect one child from the otherfor the sake of both.
(Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Loving Your Child Is Not Enough, ch. 8 (1987).)
It is easy to lose confidence in our natural ability to raise children. The true techniques for raising children are simple: Be with them, play with them, talk to them. You are not squandering their time no matter what the latest child development books say about "purposeful play" and "cognitive learning skills."
(Neil Kurshan (20th century), U.S. rabbi. Raising Your Child to Be a Mensch, ch. 3 (1987).)
Awareness has changed so that every act for children, every piece of legislation recognizes that children are part of families and that it is within families that children grow and thriveor don't.
(Bernice Weissbourd (20th century), U.S. president and fellow of Family Focus. "The Maturing Family Support Movement: Shaping Practice and Policy for the '90's," Family Resource Coalition Report (1988).
Excerpts from the speech delivered to the Family Resource Coalition Conference (October 1988).)
A society in which adults are estranged from the world of children, and often from their own childhood, tends to hear children's speech only as a foreign language, or as a lie.... Children have been treated ... as congenital fibbers, fakers and fantasisers.
Indeed, there are no easy correlations between parental ideology, class or race and "successful" child development. Many children the world over have revealed a kind of toughness and plasticity that make the determined efforts of some parents to spare their children the slightest pain seem ironic.
(Robert Coles (20th century), U.S. child psychiatrist. Children of Crisis, ch. 9 (1964).)
We are playing with fire when we skip the years of three, four, and five to hurry children into being age six.... Every child has a right to his fifth year of life, his fourth year, his third year. He has a right to live each year with joy and self-fulfillment. No one should ever claim the power to make a child mortgage his today for the sake of tomorrow.
(James L. Hymes, Jr. (20th century), U.S. child development specialist, author. Teaching the Child Under Six, ch. 2 (1968).)
Hopefulness is the heartbeat of the relationship between a parent and child. Each time a child overcomes the next challenge of his life, his triumph encourages new growth in his parents. In this sense a child is parent to his mother and father.
(Louise J. Kaplan (20th century), U.S. psychologist. Oneness and Separateness: From Infant to Individual, ch. 1 (1978).)
Whether the child is the father's or someone else's, if a man is involved in the physical care of his child before the age of three, there is a dramatic reduction in the probability that that man will be involved later in life in sexual abuse of children in general as well as his own.
(Kyle D. Pruett (20th century), professor, child psychiatrist. The Nurturing Father, ch. 2 (1987).)
We do not raise our children alone.... Our children are also raised by every peer, institution, and family with which they come in contact. Yet parents today expect to be blamed for whatever results occur with their children, and they expect to do their parenting alone.
(Richard Louv (20th century), U.S. journalist, author. Childhood's Future, part 1, ch. 3 (1991).)