Quotations From ROGER GOULD
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To brew up an adult, it seems that some leftover childhood must be mixed in; a little unfinished business from the past periodically intrudes on our adult life, confusing our relationships and disturbing our sense of self.Roger Gould (20th century), U.S. psychotherapist and author. Transformations, sec. 1 (1978).
Somewhere between the overly intrusive parent and the parent who forgets about us after we're out of the house is the ideally empathetic parent who recognizes the relativity of choice, the errors of his or her own way, and our need to find our own way and who can stay with us at a respectful distance while we do it.Roger Gould (20th century), U.S. psychotherapist and author. Transformations, sec. 4, ch. 2 (1978).
Children are incurable romantics. Brimful of romance and tragedy, we whirl through childhood hopelessly in love with our parents. In our epic imagination, we love and are loved with a passion so natural and innocent we may never know its like as adults.Roger Gould (20th century), U.S. psychotherapist and author. Transformations, sec. 1, ch. 1 (1978).
Deep inside us, we know what every family therapist knows: the problems between the parents become the problems within the children.Roger Gould (20th century), U.S. psychotherapist and author. Transformations, sec. 2 (1978).
Over and over again, her own direct experience teaches a woman that when she does enough for herself, she feels better and better about her child. When she does too much for too long for her child, she feels harassed and drained. But over and over again, she lapses into doing too much.Roger Gould (20th century), U.S. psychotherapist and author. Transformations, sec. 4, ch. 2 (1978).
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