Quotations From RON TAFFEL


 

  • As fathers, men often feel either like guests in their own homes or clumsy bulls in china shops, deferring to their wives as the "emotional experts" and squelching their own wish to be fully involved.
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. psychologist, writer. Parenting by Heart, ch. 1 (1991).
  • Being a parent is too complicated and emotional a task for magical techniques and miracle cures.
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. psychologist, writer. Parenting by Heart, preface (1991).
  • The upbeat lawyer/negotiator of preadolescence has become a real pro by now—cynical, shrewd, a tough cookie. You're constantly embroiled in a match of wits. You're exhausted.
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. psychologist, writer. Parenting by Heart, ch. 4 (1991).
  • Once you have a child, you change so much along the way, you don't even recognize yourself by the time they're ready to move out!
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. psychologist, writer. Parenting by Heart, ch. 4 (1991).

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  • By school age, many boys experience pressure to reveal inner feelings as humiliating. They think their mothers are saying to them, "You must be hiding something shameful." And shucking clams is a snap compared to prying secrets out of a boy who's decided to "clam up."
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. writer, psychologist. Why Parents Disagree, ch. 8 (1994).

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  • Men just don't "get" that the reason to become involved is for ourselves. Doing more with our children won't simply make women happier or keep them "off our backs," but will create a deeper, more positive connection with the kids.
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. writer, psychologist. Why Parents Disagree, ch. 3 (1994).

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  • Our culture still holds mothers almost exclusively responsible when things go wrong with the kids. Sensing this ultimate accountability, women are understandably reluctant to give up control or veto power. If the finger of blame was eventually going to point in your direction, wouldn't you be?
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. writer, psychologist. Why Parents Disagree, ch. 2 (1994).

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  • Never assume one child is always the victim and the other the aggressor. Remember, no matter how things appear, it takes two to tango. If you look closely enough ... you will see how the victim subtly provokes the aggressor into attacking.
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. writer, psychologist. Why Parents Disagree, ch. 13 (1994).

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  • Even as kids reach adolescence, they need more than ever for us to watch over them.... Adolescence is not about letting go. It's about hanging on during a very bumpy ride.
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. writer, psychologist. "The Reason Mothers Should Never Let Go," McCalls (July 1994).
  • Contrary to popular belief, children (even adolescents) are not only pushing for independence, they are pushing for contact and connection. It is a major error to think independence is all they are after.
    Ron Taffel (20th century), U.S. psychologist, writer. Parenting by Heart, ch. 1 (1991).

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