This is not to say that becoming a father automatically makes you a good father. Fatherhood, like marriage, is a constant struggle against your limitations and self-interests. But the urge to be a perfect father is there, because your child is a perfect gift.
(Kent Nerburn (20th century), U.S. theologian and author. Letters to My Son, ch. 25 (1993).)
Such joint ownership creates a place where mothers can "father" and fathers can "mother." It does not encourage mothers and fathers to compete with one another for "first- place parent." Such competition is not especially good for marriage and furthermore drives kids nuts.
(Kyle D. Pruett (20th century), professor, child psychiatrist. The Nurturing Father, ch. 13 (1987).)
For a boy to reach adulthood feeling that he knows his father, his father must allow his emotions to be visiblehardly an easy task when most males grow up being either subtly or openly taught that this is not acceptable behavior. A father must teach his son that masculinity and feelings can go hand in hand.
(Kyle D. Pruett (20th century), professor, child psychiatrist. The Nurturing Father, ch. 9 (1987).)