The opposite of love is not to hate but to separate. If love and hate have something in common it is because, in both cases, their energy is that of bringing and holding togetherthe lover with the loved, the one who hates with the hated. Both passions are tested by separation.
(John Berger (b. 1926), British art critic, painter, novelist. And Our Faces, My Heart, Brief as Photos, ch. 2, Pantheon (1984).)
I said something which gave you to think I hated cats. But gad, sir, I am one of the most fanatical cat lovers in the business. If you hate them, I may learn to hate you. If your allergies hate them, I will tolerate the situation to the best of my ability.
(Raymond Chandler (1888-1959), U.S. author. letter, Jan. 26, 1950, to publisher Hamish Hamilton. Raymond Chandler Speaking (1962).)
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”