“Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you can not bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond that pain.”
'So either consciousness is an outlier, or people always get what they want, or there is no way to explain pain, because pain cannot be explained if it is not what someone wants....To be sane, the individual has to align with the majority, which involves explaining pain away, or leaving it unexplained. But the self-examined life leads to the rejection of these views'
There is nothing heavier than compassion. Not even one's own pain weighs so heavy as the pain one feels with someone, for someone, a pain intensified by the imagination and prolonged by a hundred echoes.
(Milan Kundera (b. 1929), Czechoslovakian author, critic. The Unbearable Lightness of Being, pt. 1, ch. 15 (1984).)