Lawrence Balter


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  • ''You want to prepare your child to think as he gets older. You want him to be critical in his judgments. Teaching a child, by your example, that there's never any room for negotiating or making choices in life may suggest that you expect blind obedience—but it won't help him in the long run to be discriminating in choices and thinking.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. Dr. Balter's Child Sense, part 2, ch. 26 (1985).
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  • ''Kids need to see that their parents may not always be of the same mind, that people who differ, even angrily, can continue in a loving relationship,... that it's okay to argue with a loved one, and that one can do so without risking the love of the other person.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. "Not in Front of the Children...," Ch. 4 (1993).
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  • ''The extent to which a parent is able to see a child's world through that child's eyes depends very much on the parent's ability to appreciate the differences between herself and her child and to respect those differences. Your own children need you to accept them for who they are, not who you would like them to be.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. "Not in Front of the Children...," Ch. 3 (1993).
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  • ''If the issue doesn't matter a whole lot, just drop it. You don't have to win every fight ... and you will not have lost any of your authority by giving in when it doesn't matter very much.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. Who's In Control? Ch. 3 (1989).
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  • ''In a toddler's mind, agreeing with you means that he is indistinguishable from you.... The adamant little tot is fighting hard to solidify a personal sense of Self. Selfhood sometimes requires great sacrifice and often precludes cooperation.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. Who's In Control? Ch. 3 (1989).
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  • ''In many respects, the preteen years mimic adolescence, but without one essential ingredient: hormones.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. Who's in Control? Ch. 6 (1989).
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  • ''Many single parents say that they feel they have to be both a mother and a father to the child. This is impossible, so you may as well rule out that idea.... As a single parent, you cannot be both a man and a woman. Who you are is a parent.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. Who's In Control? Ch. 7 (1989).
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  • ''A child who fears excessive retaliation for even minor offenses will learn very early on that to lie is to protect himself.... If your child intuits that you will react very punitively to his wrongdoing, he may be tempted to lie and may become, as time goes on, a habitual liar.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. Who's In Control? Ch. 6 (1989).
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  • ''As a parent, you will often serve as an inadvertent example to your child. A child will model himself after you in many areas: how you deal with frustration, settle disagreements and cope with not being able to have the things that you want, to name just three.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. Who's In Control? (1989).
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  • ''A toddler believes that if you love a person, you stay with that person 100 percent of the time.''
    Lawrence Balter (20th century), U.S. psychologist and author. Who's In Control? Ch. 3 (1989).
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