Nancy Samalin


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  • ''Guilt is often an appropriate response to wrongdoing, but punishment impedes the development of a conscience by taking away the opportunity for him to feel guilty. He has no chance to develop inner motivation.''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Loving Your Child Is Not Enough, ch. 4 (1987).
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  • ''Whining is like chalk scratching on a blackboard for most parents.''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Loving Your Child Is Not Enough, ch. 1 (1987).
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  • ''Children can find bottomless reserves of righteousness, moral indignation, and rigidity—when the object is another child.''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma, ch. 4 (1991).
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  • ''I tell parents ... when they are the recipients of public humiliation inflicted by their irrational toddlers or preschoolers, and they are being stared at by clucking strangers, to repeat this mantra: "I do not know these people. They are not my friends. I will never see them again."''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma, ch. 1 (1991).
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  • ''It isn't easy to see the formerly loving child who once curled up in our laps turn into a surly stranger who cannot spare us a kind word. One mother ... was taken aback when she called, as her daughter was going out the door, "Have a good time," and her daughter angrily replied, "Stop telling me what to do!"''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma, ch. 3 (1991).
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  • ''The best time to punish is not when we're at our maddest, but that's usually when we do it.''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma, ch. 3 (1991).
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  • ''When we acknowledge our children's right to want things, as well as their right to be upset when they can't have what they want, it can go a long way toward defusing their anger and the tantrums that occur as a result.''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma, ch. 2 (1991).
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  • ''It's a fact of life: Children will naturally seek to gain the upper hand in a family, often at the expense of a younger or more vulnerable sibling. They will observe one another closely and take advantage of any edge they can achieve.''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Love and Anger: the Parental Dilemma, ch. 4 (1991).
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  • ''When children are physically hurting each other, we can't let them "work it out themselves." Just as we stop a child from touching a hot stove or running in the street, we need to protect one child from the other—for the sake of both.''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Loving Your Child Is Not Enough, ch. 8 (1987).
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  • ''What can I do to get my kid to listen...? The answer is brief: talk less.''
    Nancy Samalin (20th century), U.S. author and parent educator. Loving Your Child Is Not Enough, ch. 1 (1987).
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