Not The Real Mommy! Poem by Dee Daffodil

Hello Dee thought I`d tell you about me. I was married 57 years ago Had 2 daughters 5 years apart,7 years into our marriage my wife dumped Me for my best friend, I didn`t see my girls it was too painful .I was alone for a number Of years met someone else, she hsd 5 children and they all liked me we were together for 42 until she passed away 5 years ago, I saw my daughters for the first time in years, they were not happy that I had, as they Put it, abandoned them, so you see it isn`t always easy to choose the right road. I met their mother she had been alone for many years. We got together again and Have since married for the second time. Now I feel that I have let my step children down Life was never easy. lovely to talk to you archie

Ouch! ! Dee don't feel guilty...it's a hard road being a working mother. You love your kids, you love your job, you love your alone time...nothing wrong with that. By going off to work each day you are showing your children that it's important to find a life path that they will enjoy and be proud of, it's part of who you are and you also are the real mommy. You are needed as I think he was saying he misses you.....a lot of juggling...and super-mom is a myth! Hugs, Diane

Hi Dee, we all do our best and none of us are perfect. You cannot say what is best. my 2 year old has gone to nursery school since he was 9 months, should he be with mom? I am sure you do your best and you are the REAL mum, you know that! Love from David.

Wow! Children can be so cruel, sometimes! Even if parents are making every effort to make sure their needs are met. Your own sanity is key to being a good parent, so I'm glad you recognize that! -chuck

Dee, Very powerful stuff! Maybe you're the mommy that makes sure that they aren't left alone all day, as you have seen so many times! Maybe you are the mommy that makes sure that have food to eat and shoes upon their little feet. Maybe you are the mommy that cares enough to write this stuff, because it hurt that much. Maybe you are the mommy that too many children want to have. Barry

You are only a bad mommy if you beat your kids....lock them up in a closet for days at a time and then sell them to a bunch of Gypsies. Okay, I went overboard.

Honesty and candidness are not the worst things in being human Dee. (Now, ask yourself the big one: If a day-shift job arose, would you apply?) Danny; ¬)

As Ez said. And as Fran said. And huge big massive trans-ocean hugs to you talented wonderful brave honest from-the-hip woman, or lady, I should say. This is unique as are you. t xxxxx

OK you, listen up. Firstly - all of the below. Secondly, you're not the only one to be in that position, it's just that you have the intelligence and the guts to write about it. I'm not having you casting doubts on your abilities maternal or otherwise. What does perfect mean anyway? I bet my definition is different to yours. Finally - we all love you. Ez X

There is no such thing as a perfect parent and to be 'good enough' really is good enough. By writing this you have shown that you are a caring and loving mother. Your career makes you feel complete. And why not? Like millions of other parents you want to be something further to being a parent. Nothing to be ashamed of at all. If you stayed at home I'm sure you wouldn't have the fulfilment you have now. As for feeling bad about your son's comment, I can understand that. But stay-at-home mothers get comments, too. Thank you for having the courage to write this, Dee. A lot of people will be comforted by it. Love, Fran xxx