Jarvis De Subia Mike Taylor and Mic Ting

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Cat Call

Places that girls go to meet guys and what to say when you see them:

At the gym: Hey girl. I see you there in them yoga pants. Let me take a walk with you. We'll stroll side by side in a one-sided conversation that goes absolutely nowhere really fast. Just like that treadmill! And I see you there, thighs pumping, breaking a sweat to keep that media demanding, male approved photoshop endorsed profile picture. But oh! Putting your headphones back in?

On the bus: Hey girl. I see you there pretending to read that novel as we jolt gently to the rhythm of traffic lights. Isn't it crazy how the stars align where your bus route carries me to your personal space? I hope you don't feel trapped in this moving medal cage. I hope you don't feel imposed upon. Oh... That's your stop?

At your bar job: Hey Bartender. Let me get a tall glass of… your number. I know this first impression started out on the rocks, but as a paying customer, I'll take your polite smile as an invitation to harass you until last call or...

On the street where I'm like, cutie I've been following you for like ten hours! And I know you don't talk to strangers but you passing out eye candy left and right. Your eyes are focused straight ahead ignoring the wolves stalking your pasture. Until you get to...

The laundry mat: where I'm like daaaaaaaaamn you must got me in a spin cycle cause I almost wrung my neck out trying to watch you walk in. Don't leave me out to dry girl!

At the train stop: where I tell you your eyes are lights at the end of my tunnel even when you contemplate pushing me off the platform, but you choose to ignore my oh so necessary validation of your worth. You don't remind me freedom of speech does not mean free from accountability. So I find you….

At your desk job: where I corner you in the staff room. Go ahead, file a complaint. HR will question how you were dressed before asking what I said.

: where I toss out compliments like grenades from behind computer screen bunkers. On this field, running home is not safe.

I hope you don't feel targeted.

I hope you don't feel hunted in your own skin or preyed upon for sport.

So I text "I got your number from the employee mailing list I hope this isn't weird.

Text "Whatchu wearing now? "

Text until my hands reach through the LCD screen to swipe at something else.

88% of women have reported experiences where their friendliness with men have been misinterpreted as sexual attraction. So it's no surprise that silence is the first reaction to unsolicited attention.

We are taught to take control. To wear entitlement like a crown believing that our kingdom extends into your personal space. But invading a woman's comfort zone has never been the right way to start a conversation. Male privilege is believing we are owed a response no matter the location because our desire for validation trumps your need for security.

So to the guys who still are looking for the magic words to approach a stranger, who believe it is not our job as men to call out catcalls, harassment, assault: stop talking! Listen.

Places girls go to work, to live, to just be left alone, to be more than a bull's eye for your bullshit pick up lines, and what to say when you see them...

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