How To Love A Man Poem by JAMES T. ADAIR

If you want to love a man
throw out everything
you thought you knew
approach him softly and slowly
like you're innocent
and brand new
open your heart
and believe that its true

If you want to love a man
be by his side
look with softness in his eyes
if the eyes meet he will soften
and let you in
listen to his breathing
and listen to his heart
and he will show you his in time

Hold his hand
a man's hands connect to his heart
caress him with your softness
and likely he will not wish to part
do not deceive him with false praise
because of that he will distrust
and will quickly tire
share with him your dreams
and he, you may inspire

Take the time to feel his pain
and to understand his sadness
if that can be shared
it will multiply his gladness
and in time his heart
may learn to smile brand new
and quite possibly true
He'll smile most when he thinks of you

Don't be afraid to let him see
the part of you that's still a little girl
because if you do so
his true emotions he will begin to unfurl
and then you'll more see his heart
the heart of your man
and love will feel free
and not bound by a plan

If you dream of marriage
keep it to yourself
a man wants to be seen
and loved and cherished for himself
and not regarded as a thing
or suspect you're seeking a ring
if so, you may be relegated to just a fling
because a man is not quick to trust
he needs to know your sincere

Be his buddy and be his friend
if he's troubled
help him to mend
If he's sweating
wipe his brow
If he's plowing
help guide his plow
and if he ever should show you a tear
tell him you're by his side
let him feel your warmth near

Inspire him to be also a boy
because that brings joy
and if you want love to grow
let him know, let your love show
Share with him all that is in your heart
you don't think it possible
but he will understand
if he's meant to be your man

The best and lasting couples
are also best friends
and if love grows slowly
and is nurtured
and cherished
it never ends

© James T. Adair