You Escaped But Not Without Damage Poem by Tony Kavuoti

Your father was a predatorial narcissist thatprojected his shame on you and you could never fulfill his irrational needs that he saddled you with in his ignorance.

You are trying to escape the distorted self image that he imposed upon you by overcompensating throughexcessive work andrisking yourself.

From an early age your mother was emotionally misattuned to youandoverwhelmed in general.Such signals affected your maturating system.

She was not able to give you adequate reflecting.

In the terms of your day in culture your parent's relationship was a verions of aclassical narcissist borderline dynamics in which the oldest child which is you is inflicted with the shame of the father and is emotionally scapegoated by a mother thatdemands that he be the hero that saves her while she demands and does all in her power to have you remain powerless.


You escaped but not without damage.