(6th August,1945 / Melbourne, Australia)

What do you think this poem is about?

A Question of Trust? *

butter wouldn't melt...

Eyes, soft grey blue and perfectly set
Lashes to die for
and such a clever mimic
He taped the Karate Kid
and played it so many times
he could recite every line by heart
He was only eight, too.

then one morning....

I knew it had gone
- the fifty dollar note
It was definitely in my purse last night
I remember checking
and I knew who'd taken it

What to do...

Confront and condemn?
(and guarantee more lies)
Confront with understanding?
(he's a good little actor)
Pretend I haven't noticed?
(and let him get away with it)
No way!

that night after story....

Sweetheart, I've been thinking...
What?
Well, some kids bring money to school, don't they?
Dunno...
To buy lunches and stuff.
no answer
I guess sometimes you wish you had some?
Maybe...
To buy stuff yourself, I mean...
S'pose so...
Would this help?
I handed him ten dollars
he blushed
Thanks mum

When I checked my purse
next morning
the fifty dollar note
was back


*inspired by A S Neil

Submitted: Tuesday, November 14, 2006
Edited: Friday, November 12, 2010


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  • Francesca Johnson (1/27/2007 8:31:00 PM)

    Wonderful, Allie. A wise and non-confrontational move, and it worked! Montessiori would have approved, I'm sure.

    Love, Fran xxxx

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  • Jim Foulk (1/15/2007 4:34:00 PM)

    good story, well said, takes me back to my child hood, when i did the same thing, my mom did not say much, she did not have to, i felt so bad, when she did find out about it, i never did it again. so you have a child that did the right thing, the is very good.

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  • Not a member No 4 (1/4/2007 3:48:00 PM)

    A very poetic distillation of parenting wisdom. So few words employed to teach to much. (I read A S Neil's Summerhill (?) quite a lot of years ago! and it was revolutionary thinking in those days. Don't think the education establishment was that impressed. But it would seem that he was a very wise, canny old guy. (He could never have done anything with that Danny Reynolds though! ! !) . x jim

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  • Tailor Bell (11/21/2006 1:32:00 PM)

    mom full of caring ways, but if my dad found out...I wouldn't sit for next 2 days. touching verse, Allie, and great read. -Tailor

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  • Diane Violet (11/18/2006 11:32:00 PM)

    What deep understanding of a child's mind, lovely Alison. Wise not to confront and cause the child to lie or feel shame, lessons can be brought up later to teach. All the best, Diane

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  • Anna Russell (11/17/2006 3:16:00 PM)

    Allie, this is so moving. We seem all too often ready to judge, when sometimes a little bit of understanding is all that's needed. Thank you for this.
    hugs
    Anna xxx

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  • Jerry Hughes (11/16/2006 6:06:00 PM)

    Excellent child psychology well written...

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  • Tara very irritated with PH injustice (11/15/2006 12:09:00 AM)

    AAA, this is is heart-wrenching, deeply touching. A lesson well taught, and how to teach that lesson, one well learned. Justice, honesty and trust are often themes in poetry, but never so unshoutingly, delightfully, touchingly personally expressed. t x

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  • Frank James Ryan Jr...fjr (11/14/2006 12:01:00 PM)

    we learn the foundation of our value for ethics & morals at home, indeed, i believe...your story whether bio or fict. is a glaring reminder of that ststement...Fabulous work, Poetess A., SIMPLY PERFECTO! ...Frank

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  • Ernestine Northover (11/14/2006 6:54:00 AM)

    A delightful story Alison, and beautifully written too. Very enjoyable read.
    Loved it.
    Love and hugs Ernestine XXX

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