ivor or ivor.e hogg

Rookie (7/4/1934 / Hebburn.Co Durham U.K)

A Gentlemans View

Poem by ivor or ivor.e hogg

I hold the door open for you
a simple act of courtesy
This any gentleman would do.
To you I act insultingly.

Because you simply do not know
how a true lady should react
and the hostility you show.
Just demonstrates this sorry fact.

How sad it is this should be so
That Feminists can only see
Politeness as another blow
against their female dignity.

A lady knows how to accept
such a proffered courtesy
She feels entitled to expect
to be treated courteously

I do not say that feminists
cannot be ladies. I dare not
I am quite sure some must exist
In my experience not a lot

I will still act the gentleman
I know that ladies understand
I act this way to show I can
Be as polite as any man.

So if my manners cause offence
It is something I regret.
But perhaps I might influence
Some feminists so they forget.

Their attitude towards all men
is fuelled by their ignorance.
I hope that they will think again
There might just be the slightest chance.

I recognise equality
I merely choose to be polite
If you prefer hostility
It is your choice you have the right.


Comments about A Gentlemans View by ivor or ivor.e hogg

  • Marcus MckinleyMarcus Mckinley (9/30/2016 1:59:00 AM)

    nicely done. it is in this day and age hard to please or be polite to any stranger that you see. fuss they may and try you might a gentleman is always right.(Report)Reply

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  • Denise Bekker ~* The Sound *~ (7/9/2010 12:01:00 PM)

    An absolute treasure of a poem! Lovely read.; D(Report)Reply

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  • Michael Brock (4/18/2010 1:45:00 PM)

    My parent taught me to be a gentleman, and I extend it everyone. An act of kindness not always returned. Alas that is how it goes.....you are so right on with this poem.

    Thanks for sharing

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  • Amy Ludidi (1/15/2009 6:02:00 PM)

    ENOUGH SAID! thank you im goin home now! lol! this poem deserves a billboard and thts that! love the way u pen the way people [esp the so-called 'feminists', do they realise wat sexists n haters they r actually? ] deceive themselves by tryin to take away the very simple things tht made men men and women women!

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  • Jeanette Matthews (10/8/2008 12:25:00 PM)

    This poem was amazing, amazing I tell, I really loved it(Report)Reply

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  • Yvonne Rautenbach (9/6/2008 12:14:00 PM)

    10/10 for content and a good bit more for making your work dance. As a woman who gets eaten alive by vultures nowadays just for saying 'I loved my dad' I know exactly where you are coming from....very sad(Report)Reply

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  • Sarwar ChowdhurySarwar Chowdhury (8/24/2008 3:11:00 PM)

    ....amazing expression........10(Report)Reply

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  • Chitra - (8/2/2008 10:22:00 AM)

    A luminous write! fine poem(Report)Reply

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  • David Desantis (5/5/2008 12:17:00 PM)

    Great dude! ! ! Feminazi's annoy the shit out of me...what happened to chivalry? ? ? If you ask me, what they really need is a good... well haha we'll leave that for another time...sweet poem


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  • C. P. SharmaC. P. Sharma (5/1/2008 8:50:00 AM)

    Perfect courtesy to ladies you show,
    To their discourtesies you can bow,
    If they show you the door, they don't know,
    To the feminists it will be big blow.

    Your poems flow ver well.(Report)Reply

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  • Shaun William HayesShaun William Hayes (4/13/2008 8:09:00 PM)

    well said and hear hear.(Report)Reply

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  • Anna Russell (2/2/2008 9:25:00 AM)

    I really enjoyed this Ivan. I once had a bit of a run in with a male friend of mine who wouldn't hold the door open, adn had left me carrying heavy bags. His response was 'Well, if you want equality...'. I think I'll show him this. You're right, it's not about equality, it's about basic human courtesy. And I, for one, love to have the door held open for me - just the same as I love to cook for people. Not because I'm a woman, but becuase it makes me happy.
    Anna xxx(Report)Reply

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  • Lime and Tequila with a Splash of Pineapple (1/30/2008 6:00:00 AM)

    I liked the thought behind this poem. Doors being held open for me are rarer than someone rushing to beat me to the door. I always smile and feel a bit warm when someone holds open the door for me though. I wonder do people really get offended anymore when someone holds open a door?

    Mind you, I've held the door open for gentlemen a few times. It usually involves them with their arms full trying to get into our apartment building.

    A good solid poem, glad I read it! And regardless of what men would do and what ladies should do, I always enjoy someone who shows me that courtesy.



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  • Jemarie Ragudo (11/13/2007 2:35:00 AM)

    I agree. Courtesy and politeness are observed not because the other person deserves it, but because fine manners require it. Equality is one thing, social grace is another. Excellent poem.(Report)Reply

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  • Melvina GermainMelvina Germain (8/30/2007 8:28:00 PM)

    Excellent poem Ivor, I think a real woman would accept this act of kindness and respect and hold him dear for such a gentalmanly act. I can't understand why any woman would consider it an insult. Today a lovely young man, extremely good looking took the time to not only hold the door open for me but to rush to the next door and hold it open as well. It did my heart good to see this young man demonstrate such kindness toward me.--Melvina--(Report)Reply

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  • Who's Erwhatsit (6/28/2007 2:23:00 PM)

    So true, so true. The concept of a man doing these nice things for a woman is a way of a man showing appreciation for the woman and all she does. Reaching something down for her from a tall shelf, opening the car door, or any door, they all lighten her load a little. Gentalmanly acts are typically things that are easy for him to do but difficult for or akward for her. When my man (I consider myself lucky to have one who does these type of things for me) opens the door or a jelly jar for me it makes my work as a woman a little easier and makes me feel important. Woman typically go through their lives feeling and often having to act in subservient way towards men in order to socially fit in and some of these women fight this to no end-then when a man does a subservient sort of thing for her she easily assumes the worst of him and snubbs his kind act. Its a sad thing for sure. Its good to see you are still a gentleman though it isn't always the trendy thing to be.

    Another of your poems full of substance: -)


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  • Ernestine NorthoverErnestine Northover (6/12/2007 8:12:00 AM)

    Bring back manners and courtesy. Dignity and respect. So lacking these days. I am so pleased to hear that you are a Gentleman, and I hope you are proud to be so. Nice poem with a great subject content. Manners Maketh Man, as 'Pope' said. (Not 'The Pope') Ha!
    Love Ernestine XXX(Report)Reply

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  • Marci Made (6/11/2007 7:47:00 PM)

    Well I like to be treated like a gal, the little things men do are appreciated by many of us, at least among those I know.....There is nothing like a Gentleman who treats his lady in a most proper way...Guess I never was one of those 'If he can do it I can.' Let the boys act as boy and the girls as girls, believe it or not, this is not [thank God] a Hillary or Rosie only world......This is a really nice poem ivor, I love the touch of humor in it as well.~~~~~~~~~~marci.xo(Report)Reply

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  • JoAnn McGrathJoAnn McGrath (6/11/2007 7:31:00 PM)

    I love the last set of lines...I don't know why it made me smile...you have such a way with words...: O)(Report)Reply

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Poem Submitted: Monday, June 11, 2007

Poem Edited: Thursday, March 10, 2011