Kamala Das

(31 March 1934 – 31 May 2009 / Punnayurkulam, Thrissur District in Kerala)

The Looking Glass - Poem by Kamala Das

Getting a man to love you is easy
Only be honest about your wants as
Woman. Stand nude before the glass with him
So that he sees himself the stronger one
And believes it so, and you so much more
Softer, younger, lovelier. Admit your
Admiration. Notice the perfection
Of his limbs, his eyes reddening under
The shower, the shy walk across the bathroom floor,
Dropping towels, and the jerky way he
Urinates. All the fond details that make
Him male and your only man. Gift him all,
Gift him what makes you woman, the scent of
Long hair, the musk of sweat between the breasts,
The warm shock of menstrual blood, and all your
Endless female hungers. Oh yes, getting
A man to love is easy, but living
Without him afterwards may have to be
Faced. A living without life when you move
Around, meeting strangers, with your eyes that
Gave up their search, with ears that hear only
His last voice calling out your name and your
Body which once under his touch had gleamed
Like burnished brass, now drab and destitute.


Comments about The Looking Glass by Kamala Das

  • Narayanan Kutty Pozhath (4/25/2018 12:28:00 AM)


    It is the true feelings of a woman about the man whom she loved. (Report) Reply

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  • (2/1/2018 12:42:00 AM)


    Sounding quite generalised but these r perspectives not facts (Report) Reply

  • (2/1/2018 12:42:00 AM)


    How pessimistic and sarcastic (Report) Reply

    (9/25/2018 1:11:00 PM)

    You can do that optimistic people serving thing..You know

  • (1/16/2018 3:35:00 AM)


    very nice and touch my hart (Report) Reply

  • Bill Cantrell (12/22/2017 2:29:00 PM)


    Reminds me more of scratch and sniff...those perfume papers, a definite poem of today's generation, interesting take in transitions from one look to another (Report) Reply

  • Edward Kofi Louis (12/22/2017 1:51:00 PM)


    Admit your admiration! ! ! Thanks for sharing this poem with us. (Report) Reply

  • (12/22/2017 9:27:00 AM)


    I like her genuineness, candidness and brevity in letting out her inner self, especially in relation to the most intimate male-female relationship one can look forward to. A quality which is rarely only seen among females. Its a treat. Thanks Kamala for the sensual poem. Congrats for your achievement. X (Report) Reply

  • Savita Tyagi (12/22/2017 7:06:00 AM)


    An outstanding poem of sensuality. A large part of human psychology where love and manipulation are intertwined. (Report) Reply

  • (12/22/2017 4:20:00 AM)


    This is all about the weakness of a man for a woman through the act of sensuality and lust, for most of men, the strain of sensuality in their loves is very strong so every man is tempted when he is drawn away of his own
    lust, and enticed.............definitely a test for all men to a feminist's call........outstanding piece
    (Report) Reply

  • Bernard F. Asuncion (12/22/2017 2:57:00 AM)


    Such a lovely wriite by Kamala Das👍👍👍 (Report) Reply

  • Rajnish Manga (12/22/2017 2:51:00 AM)


    Psychoanalytical study of a woman's close relationship with his man and then with other men around- in his absence. Kamla Das is very bold in her portrayal of man-woman relationships. (Report) Reply

  • (12/22/2017 1:16:00 AM)


    A nice poem on male-female relationship. Enjoyed. (Report) Reply

  • Prabhata Kumar Sahoo (6/3/2017 6:19:00 AM)


    Looking Glass- a terrific analysis of man-woman psychology. A rare analysis bit by bit as to enjoying life up to climax till fall to ground as destitute. Choice is yours.So nice. (Report) Reply

  • (8/25/2013 1:33:00 PM)


    Feminist poetry at its best. I think it is an open challenge to Men. Women can easily make men love them by throwing before them armpit's sweat, periodic blood, curly hairs and polished skin - just like one would throw bread crumbs and dry bones before a dog! Superb writing though. Kamala is a powerful poet of human emotions. (Report) Reply

  • Heather Wilkins (7/11/2013 4:10:00 PM)


    looking through the looking glass at love. a well written poem. expressing many thoughts. (Report) Reply

  • Soumita Sarkar (6/12/2013 12:39:00 AM)


    A poem that looks at love and lust and then a destitute on street in absence of the touch.Loved it! (Report) Reply

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Poem Submitted: Wednesday, March 28, 2012



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