Amrit Rathi


Eq -The Emotional Intelligence - Poem by Amrit Rathi

He who knows other men is discerning;
he who knows himself is intelligent.
—Lao-Tzu


Recently I saw in the newspaper
an interesting ad,
“You need not be Intelligent,
To succeed in Life,
Just enroll for our course,
We’ll tell how and why”

As my IQ is low,
the ad looked particularly attractive.
and since most people are like me,
I thought I’d better enroll,
before it’s booked.
So I did enroll,
though the fee was hefty-
as I was damned serious,
about life.

But when the course started,
I noticed a peculiar thing:
other than me, none of those attending
looked like dumb guys with low IQs;
I wondered
what could be their problem?

The Coach started.
This is a course on EQ,
Emotional Intelligence.
You’ll learn
how to be aware of your emotions,
how to manage them,
how to be aware of others' emotions,
how to deal them in others,
and how to be responsible?
But I could not make
heads or tails out of it,
so I asked him to give
a lot of examples
so a dumb guy like me can understand.
And he agreed.

“When you’re getting angry
do you see you are getting angry?
Or when you are talking,
do you see you are talking? ”

Simple stuff
I already do, I thought.

Next, “When you see you’re getting angry,
can you control your anger?
Or when you are talking,
can you adjust your tone? ”

Yes, I can.
What’s new? I thought.

Next, “Do you feel sad when
some of your pals feel sad?
Do you really listen to others?
Or are you just too busy in thoughts
to reply when others talk? ”

Yes. I feel sad; I just listen.
So, what’s new? I thought.

“And then what do you feel like doing? ”
Of course, I feel like helping.
I just want to listen and understand,
and he nodded, “Right! ”
But what’s new, I thought.

Thus the course went on for two days.
But there was nothing new I found.
Isn’t it funny?
This was pure commonsense.
I was already doing all this.
So I thought it a total waste of money.

I told the expert all about my doubts.

He said, “You know
only 25% of success is achieved
by the guys who are genius, those with high IQ,
as the others are quick to anger or blow a fuse,
and they don’t comprehend, nor can they control.
They fight with friends or don't fit in on the team;
they don’t understand how others feel,
taking no responsibility for whatever happens.”

Who are then the 75% who succeed?
“People like you, who do not
necessarily have great IQ
but do what you do-
great EQ.
and, by the way, why do you feel
you are less than a success?
It’s your sheer humility!
You should be glad.”
He said.

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Comments about Eq -The Emotional Intelligence by Amrit Rathi

  • Gita Ashok (6/24/2010 11:59:00 AM)


    Who are then the 75% who
    Succeed?
    'People like you who do not
    Necessarily have great IQs
    But do what you do-
    Great EQ.
    And, by the way, why do you feel
    You are less than a success?
    It’s your sheer Humility! ',
    He said.

    Yes. Absolutely true. The theme is very relevant in today's world. You have handled the theme in a very unique and interesting manner by giving a first-person account of your experience at the EQ workshop. Undeniably, EQ is the mantra for success and not IQ. Thanks for sharing.
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  • (6/6/2010 7:43:00 AM)


    three words... YOU ARE AWESOME! ! ! XD Really, though, the depth in your poems are just... Speechless, man, I WISH I could write like this! Pshh, wish me luck. Lol, you are really awesomeness, dude. (Report) Reply

  • (5/23/2010 2:12:00 PM)


    Someone mentioned rating. Thinking about it I rate this poem a tenner, for its ease of cleverness capable of vying with a fable from Aesop. And Aesop has been with us for a whole lot of years. (Report) Reply

  • (5/22/2010 5:36:00 AM)


    Really something to think of. You write such difficult topic in such simple way. so nice of you. Thanks for sharing (Report) Reply

  • Dr.tony Brahmin (5/12/2010 8:30:00 AM)


    Dear Rathi,
    i was reading these days one book on emotional intelligence. then ur poem came.
    nice coincidence. is nt it. The book i just read is from Daniel Golemann. emotional intelligence. why it can matter more than IQ. you have very well portrayed the problems in simple language. it redefines what it really means to be smart. it is emotional mastery. it is self-perception.it is rediscovering the fascinating facets of emotion. the roots of emotional intelligence is bases on the foundations laid down in the early ears. well done Rathi. thank u for sharing.
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  • (5/12/2010 7:24:00 AM)


    Very well written. I like how you show through EQ that it is not in fact our IQ that gets us through life, but in fact our 'EQ'. (Report) Reply

  • (5/12/2010 5:22:00 AM)


    A good write - innovative (Report) Reply

  • (5/11/2010 3:56:00 PM)


    Your poem explores the idea of emotional intelligence with integrity through the obvious colloquialisms and direct speech throughout. I certainly commend your philosophy that there is a distinction between the intelligence quotient and our ability to rationally control our emotions. Therefore this makes emotionally stable people more successful than knowledgeable people, (but perhaps not in the academic field) , whose arrogance inhibits their ability to assess situations with their heart and not their head. I rated it eight out of ten. (Report) Reply

  • (5/11/2010 11:46:00 AM)


    A really difficult topic but written with such ease. Thanks for sharing (Report) Reply

  • (5/11/2010 8:16:00 AM)


    pretty revolutionary Amrit, i like it. it reminds me of the millions of books about 'how to get rich' on the streets these days. work hard, work hard and work hard is the baseline of them all. nothing new. but still i can't hesitate grabbing a copy for myself. thanks Amrit. (Report) Reply

  • (5/10/2010 5:48:00 AM)


    Ah yes! EQ is almost a necessity for the times to come as stress levels rise and competition stiffens. Good thought. (Report) Reply

  • (5/8/2010 7:38:00 AM)


    The Emotional Intelligence is very difficult to acquire. You take such a serious subject and make it so light to understand-one can't imagine. I liked the essence and the way you presented it
    [As the others are quick to anger or blow a fuse,
    And they don’t know, nor can control,
    Fight up with friends or not fit in a team
    Don’t understand how others feel,
    Still take no responsibility for whatever happens.]
    Keep writing.....
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Poem Submitted: Saturday, May 8, 2010

Poem Edited: Monday, November 22, 2010


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