Abderrahmane Dakir


Family Connections - Poem by Abderrahmane Dakir

Our house was small, but it's full, all my family in it,
Men and women cooed, the elders laughed and children played,
Though no one complained or groaned. All like sprightly men.

We had time to tell the longest story enthusiastically,
We had time to savor the delicious homemade food,
We were poor but you came and stayed many months with us.

Now our house is big, but it's empty, all our broken hearts apart,
everyone is busy, everyone hurriedly scribbled a note, excuse me, I'm in hurry,
I reckon our connection was old fashioned, I don't know, I have no idea.

Now you are busy, you couldn't even listen to me,
We haven't time to cook, we go out shamelessly,
We are rich but we scarcely saw each other.
We reluctantly agreed to talk each other casually,

Maybe my poetry and my story don't seem worthwhile to read.
Your bruised treasury is pathetic unless you would be genuinely connected.

Before you would see me in the street and you couldn't recognize my face.
Please say yes to my invitation, I remain faithful to my fertile connection,
Please say yes to my invitation, I'm committed to my huge connection,


We are created all together, to keep in touch with each other,
You Could recover my injured soul, the fatalism would be better again,
I and you Could turn the past into renewed memories at least once again.





Abderrahmane Dakir © 2018

Topic(s) of this poem: death, families, family, love


Comments about Family Connections by Abderrahmane Dakir

  • Thomas CaseThomas Case (7/15/2019 12:34:00 PM)

    wonderful poem.....family is so important. (Report)Reply

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  • Malvikas Poet ChannelMalvikas Poet Channel (2/10/2019 9:19:00 AM)

    Really it is something sad happening in today's generation,
    But we'll expressed.10 p
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    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(2/10/2019 11:06:00 AM)

    Thanks Vaidyanathan Ram Iyer for reading.

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  • Gangadharan Nair Pulingat (11/8/2018 8:47:00 AM)

    Here I read carefully the lines of poem which is about joint family life and changed scenario of nuclear family set ups now accepted world wide. It was a happy thing to live in a joint family where every member contributes his efforts to bring the family ties together and welfare of each other. Now it has became in memories. The poet has done a wonderful creation though this poem. Thanks. (Report)Reply

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  • Jasbir ChatterjeeJasbir Chatterjee (11/4/2018 5:33:00 AM)

    Don't be disheartened, Abderrahmane. Things change, people change. It's inevitable. You just have to follow along and make the most of it. (Report)Reply

    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(2/10/2019 11:04:00 AM)

    Thanks Jasbir Chatterjee for reading.

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  • Gangadharan Nair Pulingat (10/3/2018 9:04:00 AM)

    In fact I felt this poem so meaningful in everyday life. Men in their busy schedules of life often forget the very meaning of community and positive relations. We are destined to live in unison that makes this world happy to all and liveable. (Report)Reply

    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(2/10/2019 11:03:00 AM)

    Thanks Gangadharan Nair Pulingat for reading.

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  • Louis RamsLouis Rams (10/1/2018 8:39:00 PM)

    everyone tries to create their own lives even if it means breaking family ties, but they will
    recover and come back home cause that's where they belong.
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    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(2/10/2019 11:01:00 AM)

    Thanks Louis Rams for reading.

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  • Madathil Rajendran NairMadathil Rajendran Nair (9/29/2018 9:19:00 AM)

    Loved this poem. We are all becoming more and more mechanical with affluence and modernity. The old familial
    bonhomie has vanished for ever from our midst. This is a global phenomenon - nay disaster. Irrevocable it looks like. Yet, I too hope with the poet that we still Could! (10)
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    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(2/10/2019 11:00:00 AM)

    Thanks Madathil Rajendran Nair for reading.

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  • Malvikas Poet ChannelMalvikas Poet Channel (9/24/2018 2:22:00 PM)

    The word busy does not belong to family or friends.
    Nice description.
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    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/24/2018 3:30:00 PM)

    Thank you Vaidyanathan Ram Iyer for reading.

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  • Tony AdahTony Adah (9/18/2018 7:50:00 PM)

    Beautiful poem! We shouldn't be too busy to connect with our l families and friends. Well crafted. (Report)Reply

    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/22/2018 5:28:00 AM)

    Thank you Tony Adah for reading.

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  • Kevin PatrickKevin Patrick (9/18/2018 1:50:00 PM)

    Wonderful Poem Abderrahmane, great exploration into a families dynamics, at one time all of our cultures centered around the family unit, large families lives together like small communities, now we live in an era of extreme individualism, we are taught to separate ourselves in smaller units, today it is frowned upon to have three generations of families live together. Your poem mad me think of that, if we cannot keep families together how will all our societies survive. (Report)Reply

    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/22/2018 5:29:00 AM)

    Thank you Kevin Patrick for reading.

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  • Akham Nilabirdhwaja SinghAkham Nilabirdhwaja Singh (9/14/2018 9:54:00 AM)

    Now a days people of the same family and neighbours are more and more not knowing each other.The situation is very well depicted in the poem.Like it.10 (Report)Reply

    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/22/2018 5:27:00 AM)

    Thank you Akham for reading.

    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/22/2018 5:27:00 AM)

    Thank you Akham Nilabirdhwaja Singh for reading.

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  • Mj Lemon (9/13/2018 11:56:00 AM)

    Such a wonderful poem, Abderrahmane. Family does indeed indeed provide us with identity and purpose. It also, as you suggest, can fill us with an emptiness at a certain stage in life. A terrific verse. (Report)Reply

    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/22/2018 5:26:00 AM)

    Thank you Mj Lemon for reading.

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  • Roseann Shawiak (9/12/2018 10:08:00 PM)

    Love this poem Abderrahmane! I too am from a big family and grew up poor. You have portrayed a family life from a realistic perspective. Excellent explanation of an aging family. Thank you for sharing. (Report)Reply

    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/13/2018 2:47:00 AM)

    Thank you Roseann Shawiak for reading.

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  • Bri EdwardsBri Edwards (9/12/2018 4:43:00 PM)

    (cont.)

    My daughter, too, is FAR away, and she, unlike the older people, is SO BUSY with work, and her own family. i'm just glad they are not (all) criminals and trying to get what LITTLE money i have! !

    bri ;)
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  • Bri EdwardsBri Edwards (9/12/2018 4:42:00 PM)

    (cont.)

    there are MANY parts of this i have enjoyed. many. but, if you truly feel this way, you have a different outlook on family ties. i do LIKE my four siblings, and one of my cousins and enjoy speaking to them, but we live miles and MILES apart and most of them are in a time zone three hours 'earlier' than mine. ha ha. SEE, i seem to be making excuses, but.........why should i feel any need to make excuses? ? ? i don't!

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  • Bri EdwardsBri Edwards (9/12/2018 4:33:00 PM)

    (cont.)

    Your bruised treasury is pathetic unless you would be genuinely connected.....i assume treasury refers to ones family/relatives WHEN 'they' are 'close' socially/emotionally. nice image if that's what you mean. yes, probably for various reasons families have 'grown apart'. PH may be one of the causes! ! !

    i do, now that we are both retired and 'old', like to talk to my younger brother on phone. HE can out-talk me....if one can believe THAT! !

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  • Bri EdwardsBri Edwards (9/12/2018 4:30:00 PM)

    first submitted poem by you in over a year! ? and i don't spy you in the photo. but......there is my Aunt Gertrude!

    i'm enjoying the poem. to MyPoemList

    Maybe my poetry, my story don't seem worthwhile to read....[ I suggest doesn't, but, though don't is not proper (to me) with my story, it WOULD be with my stories! ! ].....seem worthwhile to read.....[ I suggest doesn't, but, though don't is not proper (to me) with my story, it WOULD be with my stories! ! ]

    (cont.)
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    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/13/2018 2:44:00 AM)

    Thanks Bri Edwards for reading. I will correct it.

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  • Nosheen IrfanNosheen Irfan (9/12/2018 6:57:00 AM)

    Family is a huge source of comfort. Strong family bonding helps us get through rough times. Sadly with the invasion of technology, relationships are weakening. A lovely picture of the ups and downs in family ties. (Report)Reply

    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/13/2018 2:42:00 AM)

    Thanks Nosheen Irfan for reading.

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  • Anzelyne ShidesheAnzelyne Shideshe (9/12/2018 5:32:00 AM)

    Great piece with lots of essence regarding family just
    Keep writing.
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    Abderrahmane DakirAbderrahmane Dakir(9/12/2018 6:46:00 AM)

    Thanks Anzelyne for reading.

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  • Bharati NayakBharati Nayak (9/11/2018 6:24:00 AM)

    Now you are busy, you couldn't even listen to me,
    We haven't time to cook, we go out shamelessly,
    We are rich but we scarcely saw each other.
    We reluctantly agreed to talk each other casually,
    - - - - - -The togetherness and family bonding are on the decline.We are more affluent, but have less time for family.It was really great fun when we used to eat together and share jokes over meals.But now we hardly have matching time to eat together.
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Poem Submitted: Wednesday, August 29, 2018

Poem Edited: Thursday, September 13, 2018


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