Katinka Havermans

Freshman - 524 Points (15-09-1967 / The Netherlands)

I Feel Your Pain - Poem by Katinka Havermans

I feel your pain
Your struggle
It has got to hurt
Deep inside

You are so tough
A strong boy
A man even
But just a child

I feel your pain
It is mine too
You know
I can only watch

You can do it
Yourself you say
I want to help
And say it will be allright

I feel your pain
It must hurt
Even after six years
That your mum and dad
Don't even like each other anymore

© KH

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Poet's Notes about The Poem

the struggle of my 18 year old son dealing with his dad's lies about his mum

Comments about I Feel Your Pain by Katinka Havermans

  • (9/21/2017 10:46:00 PM)


    Katinka, you have done a masterful job with this poem. Thank you so much for such a heart wrenching poem. It takes courage to share this in public. And you have been justly rewarded. Congratulations on Poem Of The Day! (Report) Reply

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  • Bernard F. Asuncion (9/21/2017 5:34:00 PM)


    Such touching words coming from the heart.... congrats for being chosen, Katinka... a perfect 10+++ (Report) Reply

  • Lyn Paul (9/21/2017 4:48:00 PM)


    Heartfelt words. Particularly after reading your Poet's notes. A strong woman you are.
    For your own pain is incredibly strong and your concern is only for your son.
    Thank you Katinka for these powerful words.
    May life start shining bright for yourself and your son.
    These troubles in our life give us so much strength and wisdom.
    You look back occasionally and are amazed by the mountains you have climbed.
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  • Edward Kofi Louis (9/21/2017 1:02:00 PM)


    Feelings! Deep inside! ! Thanks for sharing this poem with us. (Report) Reply

  • Savita Tyagi (9/21/2017 11:25:00 AM)


    A very sensitive poem dealing with emotional growing that our children have to go through. Circaustance may be different for all but Mother is the one who feels most a child's pain and still knows that this growing a child has to do. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful poem of delicate emotions. (Report) Reply

  • Daniel Brick (9/21/2017 10:24:00 AM)


    Your poem reveals with clear-eyed honesty one of the messier realities of life when the problems adults have in their emotional lives spill over and affect the younger generation. I can tell how much you want to rescue your son from this trauma but so far you can't. But your presence and compassion, which your poem records, are all you can offer and what precious gifts they are. They won't solve the problem immediately but in the long run both of them are like an angelic gift that will eventually ease the trauma. And your poem will be proof of your good intentions. Your son will be healed. (Report) Reply

  • Subhas Chandra Chakra (9/21/2017 10:21:00 AM)


    A touchy poem comprising subtle sadness as experienced by a mother for the loving son.
    Very well described with a great skill of word usage.
    A marvel of art indeed. Thanks for the poem and congrats.
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  • Sylvia Frances Chan (9/21/2017 8:47:00 AM)


    CONGRATULATIONS on the DAILY Poem as a member of PoemHunter.com I Feel Your Pain A 10 votes I have given. I tell you here, just to you, that my poem Grow Old With You? was The Poem of The Day yesterday, the 20th 2017 and accidentally, that poem I wrote on the 20th Sep six years ago (in 2011) was chosen as The Poem of The Day of the members on PoemHunter.com. YES! I am still excited now. I must thank PoemHunter.com a very lot. This means so much to me personally. Keep on creating, dear poetess. With the very best wishes, Sylvia Frances Chan, poetess, evangelist and world traveler. Thursday 21 Sep 2017 @ 15.45 hrs PM West-European Time (Report) Reply

  • Sylvia Frances Chan (9/21/2017 8:34:00 AM)


    It is oft very tragic that a mum must watch her son suffering, because his own bloody dad was lying constantly about his mum. This story goes about that thin and most tender line amongst dad and son.This poem, a sublimest subtilest creation straight from the heart. I am so much touched by the simple words but with deep meanings. This poem I feel your pain when produced as a movie, would be a greatest cry movie but most beautiful. Dutch is my mother tongue too, but since this poem is written in the English language, I have commented in the same language too...but the Dutch word schitterend gedicht cannot be translated. Thank you for sharing this touching poem. (Report) Reply

  • Kumarmani Mahakul (9/21/2017 8:34:00 AM)


    A poem with sadness and heartfelt depiction. Thanks and congratulations for being selected as the poem of the day. (Report) Reply

  • Anil Kumar Panda (9/21/2017 7:20:00 AM)


    Very sad indeed. Nice poem though. Feel the pain in lines. Thanks for sharing. (Report) Reply

  • Tom Allport (9/21/2017 3:33:00 AM)


    a very sad poem of the genuine feelings felt for some one much loved? ....................well written (Report) Reply

  • Lantz Pierre (9/21/2017 3:27:00 AM)


    In any dissolution of a marriage with children there are always more than two sides to the story. And no one has the privilege, can be the omniscient narrator, to tell anyone else's story, no matter how much of the narrative you think you may know. The children often know the least of the narrative, the backstory to the dissolution, but their perspective leans most to both sides. The child's vested interest is the parents, both sides, maybe not equally, but more than either parent. And they have active and efficient filters for the narrative each parent decides to contribute to their understanding. BS detectors for self preservation. It ain't easy. (Report) Reply

  • Robert Murray Smith (9/21/2017 12:26:00 AM)


    A heartfelt and insightful write.

    A worthy POD.

    Robert
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  • Dr.tony Brahmin (8/30/2017 4:58:00 AM)


    I feel your pain
    It must hurt......problems in married life, trust, faithfullness, children, love, lost love, doubt, mistrust......... concern for the one who suffers. there were so many points in your poem.. i read it carefully well.. thank you dear poet. tony
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  • Katinka Havermans (8/7/2012 2:16:00 PM)


    thank you so much for your kind words Indranil. (Report) Reply

  • Indranil Bhaduri (8/7/2012 8:27:00 AM)


    I am almost in tears reading this. So touchy. Keep writing. Also invite you to read my humble contributions. (Report) Reply

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Poem Submitted: Tuesday, August 7, 2012



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