Scarborough Gypsy

Rookie - 3 Points (2nd October / London)

Alcohol Abuse Is Not An Addiction

Poem by Scarborough Gypsy

Am so afraid of how you feel
Listening to what you’ve said
Chills me to the bone
Our whole existence is on shaky ground
How has it come to this
Or has it always been this way
Lonely on the inside and lonely on the out

Angry at you for having this weakness
Beating myself up for being so hard
Unable to see it from your perspective
Seeing only instability on your part
Even though I love you so

I don’t know how to deal with this
Stubborn strength has always been my strong point

Never been one to give in easily
Or admit defeat in any way
Therefore how can you, my man

Are you not in control of what you do
Needs and wants
Against who’s will do you keep drinking
Don’t you see that you can stop
Determination alone will conquer
I want to help but don’t know how
Can’t understand the actual problem
That is a problem in itself
I feel like I don’t really know you
Or even worse, don’t know myself
Need to sit on this a bit

Comments about Alcohol Abuse Is Not An Addiction by Scarborough Gypsy

  • Brian JaniBrian Jani (5/26/2014 5:46:00 AM)

    Amazing poem here keep it up(Report)Reply

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  • Robert E Hann (11/24/2009 11:12:00 PM)

    This one makes me stop and think
    while I read rhymes and drink my drink.
    I tell myself I know the score.
    I swear it makes me love her more.
    But I do know I walk a line
    where danger's working overtime.
    I'll take your words along with me
    and carry on most carefully.

    Thanx for the 'heads up'.

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  • Jennifer Jarrell (10/27/2009 1:10:00 AM)

    I must say I love how you show how alcoholism affects others around us. But I do have to disagree on it not being an addiction. Not that I know all about it. But I am an alcoholic in recovery and without prayer and the 12 steps I could not stay sober for anyone or anything. Will power alone didn't work and in most cases don't work. Just my opinion. But other then that I loved the way you reminded me what my faults caused the ones I love to go thru and feel.(Report)Reply

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  • Milica Franchi De Luri (10/25/2009 7:16:00 PM)

    Great poem..............thank you for sharing............10+++++++++(Report)Reply

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  • Lisa Dee (10/21/2007 8:34:00 PM)

    It's almost as if I wrote this myself- I feel the same way- angry at myself for being so hard, pissy that he can't muster up the will power- abandoned when it takes over, so sad for my poor sweet love-(Report)Reply

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  • Mike Finley (4/7/2006 8:03:00 AM)

    If we know anything it is that determination is useless against addiction. People need help - while in the throes of addiction, they cannot help themselves.

    And even if they stop by an act of will, they remain 'dry drunks' - not drinking but not cured either.

    I go to meetings every Saturday because I need the support of my brothers there. With their help and with the grace of God I have been sober for 12 years,(Report)Reply

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  • Linda HepnerLinda Hepner (2/28/2006 12:48:00 AM)

    You show well how addiction affects not only the addicts but the ones who love them. This was a affective cri du coeur.
    Linda H(Report)Reply

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  • Tomás O Cárthaigh (2/26/2006 11:07:00 AM)

    Drink, or its addiiction, is as much chronic selfishness as a problem. Well put in this poem.(Report)Reply

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  • Michael Gale (2/20/2006 2:20:00 PM)

    Excellent poem about a sickness that haunts alot of people and families. I must disagree, I believe Alcohol is an addiction. Addictions require will power.For without will power, we fall victim to our own weakness. I believe the title of this poem might properly be titled Alcohol Is An Addiction. Warmest regards!(Report)Reply

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  • Anna Russell (2/20/2006 9:24:00 AM)

    I have been in this situation and always felt bad when I got angry with him. This is a poignant reminder of how lives can be torn apart by this illness. Well done.10.
    Big hugs
    Anna xxx(Report)Reply

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  • Moya Levy (2/18/2006 6:19:00 AM)

    I remember reading this the first time around, I can't remember what I wrote though! A subject close to my life in many ways, a true and honest portrayal of your feelings, nice poem. Moyaxx(Report)Reply

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  • Patricia Gale (2/9/2006 8:01:00 AM)

    Wonderfuly written.. This subject is deep and heartbreaking. As I suffered from a man I truly loved but would not give up the bottle, so I had to give up on him. Heart wrenching.
    Great insight(Report)Reply

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  • Peter A. Crowther (7/1/2005 10:40:00 AM)

    This is a very perceptive poem that looks at all the facets of alcoholism and the sadness that it brings to those concerned and their loved ones. Very well done Scarborough. I'll give it a ten!(Report)Reply

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  • Herbert Nehrlich1 (7/1/2005 9:37:00 AM)

    Gypsy this is a very good poem and I have seen the dark side of this in several people. You painted a realistic picture with just the right amount of vagueness to make it believable.

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  • Uriah Hamilton (7/1/2005 9:27:00 AM)

    I don't strictly remember my comment, but thanks for returning the poem!(Report)Reply

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  • Alice Vedral RiveraAlice Vedral Rivera (7/1/2005 9:03:00 AM)

    I've been there (and left after 18 years) and I don't always feel comfortable revisiting the 'dark days', but I really liked this poem the first time I read it and I like it even more rereading it. I like the way you articulated what it feels like.

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  • Scarborough Gypsy (7/1/2005 8:23:00 AM)

    Not sur what happened? ?

    This was previously submitted and got deleted somehow. Pretty dissapointng because it had received some excellent comments.

    Here it goes again.


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Poem Submitted: Friday, July 1, 2005