Taslima Nasrin

(25 August 1962 - / Mymensingh / Bangladesh)

Happy Marriage - Poem by Taslima Nasrin

My life, like a sandbar,
has been taken over by a monster of a man
who wants my body under his control
so that, if he wishes,
he can spit in my face,
slap me on the cheek,
pinch my rear;
so that, if he wishes,
he can rob me of the clothes,
take my naked beauty in his grip;
so that, if he wishes.
he can chain my feet,
with no qualms whatsoever whip me,
chop off my hands, my fingers,
sprinkle salt in the open wound,
throw ground-up black pepper in my eyes,
with a dagger can slash my thigh,
can string me up and hang me.

His goal: to control my heart
so that I would love him;
in my lonely house at night
sleepless, full of anxiety,
clutching at the window grille,
I would wait for him and sob;
tears rolling down, I would bake homemade bread,
would drink, as if they were ambrosia,
the filthy liquids of his polygynous body
so that, loving him, I would melt like wax,
not turning my eyes toward any other man.
I would give proof of my chastity all my life.

So that, loving him,
on some moonlit night
I would commit suicide
in a fit of ecstasy.


Comments about Happy Marriage by Taslima Nasrin

  • (6/12/2019 7:27:00 PM)

    Taslima...speechless! ! ! congrats for being selected as the POD! God bless you! (Report)Reply

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  • Bernard F. Asuncion (6/12/2019 6:12:00 PM)

    A magnificent poem of the day.......10+++++++++++ (Report)Reply

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  • Prabir Gayen (6/12/2019 12:44:00 PM)

    So that, loving him,
    on some moonlit night
    I would commit suicide
    in a fit of ecstasy.... beautiful lines
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  • Prabir Gayen (6/12/2019 12:42:00 PM)

    His goal: to control my heart
    so that I would love him;
    in my lonely house at night
    sleepless, full of anxiety,
    clutching at the window grille,
    I would wait for him and sob; ...
    ....very powerful expression
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  • Edward Kofi Louis (6/12/2019 10:46:00 AM)

    Sleepless! ! !
    Very sad.

    Thanks for sharing this poem with us.
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  • Malabika Ray (6/12/2019 8:35:00 AM)

    A Powerful Poem! Inflicting pain doesn't have to be physical, or violent all the time, it could be even very subtle psychological torture. Even with the use of a few words, a woman can be subjected to humiliation and agony. Thanks to Taslima Nasrin for standing up with her strong voice. (Report)Reply

    (6/14/2019 12:47:00 AM)

    Thank you for your analysis of the theme of Taslima's poem. The poem is so powerful about the women's suffering- physical, verbal, mental. It's all about controlling the heart, mind, body of a helpless wife.

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  • (6/12/2019 8:03:00 AM)

    It appears to be a bitter personal experience from a torturing husband, dreadfully perverted (Report)Reply

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  • (6/12/2019 7:47:00 AM)

    A thought provoking poem on plight of a woman oppressed and harassed by her husband and his satanik expectations from her brilliantly versified. Well deserved poem of the Day. (Report)Reply

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  • Drtony Brahmin (6/12/2019 7:31:00 AM)

    So that, loving him,
    on some moonlit night
    I would commit suicide
    in a fit of ecstasy. negative experiences.. of a married life. tony
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  • Kumarmani Mahakul (6/12/2019 6:25:00 AM)

    His goal: to control my heart
    so that I would love him;
    in my lonely house at night
    sleepless, full of anxiety, ....so touching. A true picture of hope of a man towards woman is brilliantly delineated. Beautiful poem on social issue. Congratulations for being chosen as POD.
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  • Adeeb Alfateh (6/12/2019 5:12:00 AM)

    proof of chastity
    seeks the nasty mind..........//// great 10+++++++++++
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  • Rajnish Manga (6/12/2019 2:51:00 AM)

    This is not a poem but the picture of a simple woman who is subjected to persecution and misery at the hands of those who are supposed to give her love and care and treat her in a decent manner. The of a husband cannot be described more vehemently than it has been shown in the poem. Thanks, Great Poet. (Report)Reply

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  • (6/12/2019 1:34:00 AM)

    Truly, this should never be a true story to any sole under the sun. So, disgusting to imagine even. Very well crafted poem. Congrats on your positioning. Thanks for sharing. X (Report)Reply

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  • Mahtab Bangalee (6/12/2019 1:17:00 AM)

    male ego can love
    female ego can love

    both ego can be lover

    but sometimes the male ego descends as the controller, as the dictator, as the tyrant oppressor...

    and if love lives in the hand of cruel mind then the eternal gracefulness of love lost its existence..
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    Rajnish Manga(6/12/2019 2:20:00 AM)

    I truly appreciate your thoughtful comments, Sir.

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  • Anil Kumar Panda (6/12/2019 1:16:00 AM)

    Really sad going through tortures in a married life. It spoils the sanctity of union of two souls. Very touching. Loved it. Congrats. (Report)Reply

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  • Jungle Cat (6/12/2019 1:06:00 AM)

    Very disturbing. I hope this is your imagination and not your real life. Congratulations on having it selected as member poem of the day! (Report)Reply

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  • Britte Ninad (6/12/2019 12:37:00 AM)

    there is no love if lover behaves kingly and beloved survives slavery; realistic view on love 10+++ (Report)Reply

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  • Dr Dillip K Swain (6/12/2019 12:36:00 AM)

    I can very well trace your tone reflected in your fiction ‘Lajja’! This poem spirals into a heartbraking account of torture upon a naive wife….. ‘I would give proof of my chastity all my life’. You have brilliantly unfolded a specific case as a sample of several such unidentified cases! A great poem on social issue! Many congratulations for this masterpiece being selected as POD! (Report)Reply

    Rajnish Manga(6/12/2019 2:43:00 AM)

    Thanks a lot, Dr Dillip. An amazing review of the poem written by Tasleema Nasreen who has been a bitter critic of a fundamentalist mindset of a male dominated society. Like Salman Rushdie, she is also carrying several fatwas of religious fanatics.

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  • Jennifer Birchall (6/12/2019 12:31:00 AM)

    Wow a very powerful poem on a very abusive relationship/marriage. Stuck in the cycle because of said vows. I feel the struggle and pain in your words. (Report)Reply

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  • Drtony Brahmin (4/26/2019 1:12:00 AM)

    he can spit in my face,
    slap me on the cheek,
    pinch my rear;
    so that, if he wishes,
    he can rob me of the clothes, terrible experiences. tony
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Poem Submitted: Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Poem Edited: Tuesday, March 27, 2012


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