' What Is A Great Guy? ', She Asked Her Mom.... [loneliness; Choosing A Mate; Medium; Bri's Advice Column; Serious, Seriously! ] Poem by Bri Edwards

When it comes to saying which guy is Great,
it is really up to each gal (or guy) to rate ….
for themselves, …..though I'll give THIS advice:
'Don't ever marry the same guy twice! '

I'm writing this for a special friend of mine.
She's mixed up, but someday she may be fine.
A guy she loved (loves?) broke her heart,
when, for various reasons, they both did part.

She's my stepdaughter N, and a teacher now.
But to the heartache-of-loneliness she does bow …
TOO OFTEN! She's got herself in a depressing rut;
some days aren't bad, while others wrench her gut.

Her Mom and I will always wish her the best.
Sometimes all she may need is lots of rest.
It's tough on her, but it's tough on her Mom too.
If she were your kid, what would YOU do?

N once said she sometimes wishes Mom would 'just listen'….
when in N's two lonely eyes teardrops do glisten.
Phone calls sometimes end in hanging up (one or the other) :
sometimes the hang-upper is N; sometimes it's her mother.

I DO have some more concrete thoughts on this subject.
N may choose to hold onto some and others she may reject.

N, find a guy who makes you happy more than he does not.
Find a guy who has a job or is seriously looking for one, a lot.
Find a guy who's not been scared by a former failed marriage.
Find a guy who doesn't marry expecting a baby carriage.

Find one without a serious anger problem or poor self esteem.
[Of course guys AND gals are not always really what they seem! ]
Find one who does the dishes; it doesn't matter 'slow' or 'quick'.
But it DOES matter if, to an important task, a person doesn't stick.

Of course 'looks' can be important for both of you. A healthy body too.
But it's, after all, the qualities in one's brain and heart ……..
which can kill a relationship eventually, if not from the start.

Good luck, N, with killing the nagging loneliness bug.
If you were here right now I could give you a hug …
which might not help much, but you never know.
Remember, I'm a phone call away if you've got steam to blow.

(September 4,2014)