Valerie Dohren

Gold Star - 6,772 Points (13 January 1947 / Southport)

Paperwork - Poem by Valerie Dohren

My husband died just recently
And I am in a tizzy
The paperwork that needs be done
Is making me quite dizzy

So many people should be told
About his sad departing
And ‘though my pain is quite immense
My troubles are just starting

To first arrange the funeral
Is really quite dramatic
The Undertaker must be called
Which really is traumatic

And then the Wake must be arranged
To satisfy the living
Providing all the guests with food
As comfort they’ll be giving

The Bank must promptly be informed
And then there is his pension
Along with any Benefits
Are things that I should mention

Car insurance, driving licence
United Utilities
With Water Rates and Energy
And all such facilities

All the charge cards must be paid
And leave my balance dwindling
They need be done in fullest time
Lest I be ‘done’ for swindling

His Bus Pass needs be cancelled too
Along with all subscriptions
Then to the Chemist I must go
Returning his prescriptions

The telephone should be transferred
Into my name re-listed
The Council then need be informed
Community Charge subsisted

The Life Insurance must be claimed
Because I need it quickly
My waning balance worries me
Oh dear, I feel quite sickly

And then the worst of all this stuff
Those Tax Returns are scary
The tax man doesn’t like mistakes
Which leaves me kinda wary

O help me, help me if you can
In this I’m surely drowning
My darling won’t you please come back
And stop my brow from frowning

But maybe in a year or two
When all this ‘stuff’ has ended
I’ll thus begin to live again
With broken heart then mended

Poet's Notes about The Poem

In the midst of grief, there is always humour to be found.

Comments about Paperwork by Valerie Dohren

  • (1/17/2014 12:28:00 AM)

    Oh Valerie! My heart goes out to you. I too have always found writing poetry a great solace in times of distress. Thank you for sharing this with us. My very best wishes to you at this most difficult period of your life. (Report) Reply

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  • Krishnakumar Chandrasekar Nair (11/19/2013 10:50:00 AM)

    With all that paper work to do
    And so less time to grieve
    My heartfelt sympathies with you
    But it will be the same when we also leave.......

    May God grant you the inner strength as He has in the past to overcome this and cling to golden memories too...
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  • (11/1/2013 3:57:00 AM)

    Very informative sentiments....this would give advise to all! (Report) Reply

  • Khairul Ahsan (10/31/2013 7:54:00 AM)

    These bureaucratic processes are so unkind! You have brought out the painful feelings mixed with humor.
    A good poem,10/10.
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  • Hans Vr (10/13/2013 9:06:00 AM)

    Your poetry is always a pleasure to read.
    Even in difficult times you can give a light note and I this makes it so wonderful
    Excellent, Val
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  • Aftab Alam Khursheed (10/8/2013 10:25:00 AM)

    Sorry to hear May his soul rest in peace.......... (Report) Reply

  • Heather Wilkins (10/7/2013 6:16:00 PM)

    so sorry about your loss dear Val. Someday you and he will be reunited. keep smiling praying for you and your family. (Report) Reply

  • Patricia Grantham (10/7/2013 7:34:00 AM)

    Just want to take a little time to say that I am sorry about the loss of your beloved
    husband. My heartfelt sympathy and concern for you as a sister here on PH goes
    beyond deep. In time you will heal from all of it. You expressed yourself very well
    even in your grief. That is very courageous. Earth has no sorrow that Heaven can't
    heal. Take care Val and my best regards to you.
    (Report) Reply

  • Unwritten Soul (10/6/2013 9:20:00 PM)

    Fallen in the deep valley, i hope there will be many hands that offer you to climb back..This kind of situation is not kind at all but pain...If we can do donation and help by energy for you Val, we wish we can help you and people here...Though nothing we cant do to make your days better...I only can hope God may send something for you..whatever happiness we still have, hope it still here and we remain_Soul (Report) Reply

  • Rigzin Namgyal (10/6/2013 7:45:00 AM)

    ..the wound is the place where light enters has been rightly said by are in great pain but the best has come out of you in the form of this poem..all the greatest poetic works have come out only when they were in their deepest amazing piece of writing.. (Report) Reply

  • Savita Tyagi (10/4/2013 10:27:00 AM)

    I pray for you to have strength and peace. (Report) Reply

  • Lucifera Santez (10/2/2013 2:00:00 PM)

    i cant say i understand it the way you do, but i do understand it in my own way.
    i lost my nephew, Jaime.
    and all the angels above i know how grief cuts your heart to pieces.
    but we cope, and so will you.
    god sees to that.
    just keep writing val, it helps a lot.
    i know from experience.
    it helps a great deal.
    hope you smile someday near in future,
    sending you my smile.
    (Report) Reply

  • David Wood (10/1/2013 5:06:00 AM)

    I went through the same torment just over a year ago when my Tina died. It does get easier in time. She now lives in my first 50 sonnets and many peoms on PH. (Report) Reply

  • Neela Nath Das (9/30/2013 7:54:00 PM)

    A pen-picture of reality.You are steady enough and the mess around will get o.k and time will heal your grief.Amazing write! (Report) Reply

  • (9/30/2013 1:01:00 PM)

    An admirable, chin up way to face your adversity.Well done, thorough and instructive..Just keep
    writing in your remarable way
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  • Tirupathi Chandrupatla (9/30/2013 11:55:00 AM)

    Valerie, your poem is so instructive. It provides information for all the couples when both spouses are alive. Thank you for sharing all that information through a thoughtful poem of listing realities. (Report) Reply

  • Shahzia Batool (9/29/2013 12:37:00 PM)

    @Poet's notes: a great lesson is delivered here...
    @the poem: mostly nature poems, love poems, national songs, and elegies are written alike, but this poem has its own originality, as i never read such an expression so spontaneous...who is the one who cannot feel this humour soaked in tears?
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  • Jr Cuyam (9/29/2013 10:18:00 AM)

    You're a brave woman Valerie..nice write (Report) Reply

  • Kavya . (9/28/2013 1:52:00 AM)

    a sad tale narrated in a very humorous way.....a good write Mam...and yes all these mandatory things are a pain to get cleared off which easily takes a couple of years to get updated.......... (Report) Reply

  • John Brown (9/27/2013 2:36:00 PM)

    Life has to go on Val. It is probably a good thing that you can get some of the stress out by writing about your loss. It's well written too. (Report) Reply

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Poem Submitted: Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Poem Edited: Tuesday, September 24, 2013

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