londiwe buthelezi

Rookie (31 may 1991 / empangeni, south africa)

The Abusive Man - Poem by londiwe buthelezi

I understand why you won't leave him.
It's because no matter how many times he hits you,
slaps you,
humiliates you,
or even degrades you;
you can still look at him and see the same man who
once cherished you,
praised you,
worshipped you.
The same man who promised you
more than the moon and the stars.
The man who loved you..


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  • (4/24/2009 7:14:00 AM)

    That is one of the most powerful poems I've read in awile! I'm glad I got t oread it :) (Report)Reply

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  • (4/24/2009 2:37:00 AM)

    Touching Poem, Thanks. (Report)Reply

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  • (4/21/2009 3:04:00 AM)

    You really get into it.I'm deeply touched. (Report)Reply

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  • (4/20/2009 8:53:00 AM)

    Understanding someone in this way, is the first step to offering the help that is required to change the situation. No one has the right to hurt another individual. this might seem idealistic, but trust me on this one. I worked with women in abusive relationships for six years, and still do on occasion. Understanding, and not turning away from your friend is a very good thing that you are doing. Your friend (?) needs your support. Often it may take 40 or more assaults, before a woman will finally reach out for help. The two most dangerous times in an abusive relationship, are pregnancy and seperation. Be there for your friend and offer whatever help you can.
    Hugs,
    Dee
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  • (4/19/2009 12:41:00 AM)

    there is really gr8 feel to it... nice write.... (Report)Reply

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  • (4/17/2009 6:16:00 AM)

    I finally found it!
    Well, ..: It's a very good poem....I think a lot of women go through this every day. They still stay with their husband even though he does those things to her. ~Anna~
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  • (4/14/2009 10:58:00 AM)

    i dont like abusive people...this is a good poem tho... (Report)Reply

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  • (4/14/2009 3:49:00 AM)

    Londiwe, I've little respect for men who on beat women, I trust this poem isn't personal. Warmly, Jerry (Report)Reply

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  • Tyler Tillett (4/14/2009 3:27:00 AM)

    This reminds me of my poem I worte called Dog's Love,
    Please read when you get the chance ^^
    Very good poem. I hate abusers.. >.<
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  • (4/14/2009 3:13:00 AM)

    I may not have added it by the time you read this but if you want a different percpective on the whole abusive man thing ill be posting a poem i wrote years ago called 'Love you to death' Unfortunetly for most women in an abusive relationship like this they never leave for whatever the sad reason is but ive tried so hard so many times with so many beaten women to love them and offer them real security and always they've stayed. some tried to give excuses others did not but all of them im sorry to say deserve what they get after they refuse to leave (as long as the jackass abuser isnt threatening to kill them or hurt there children) well no im sorry no one deserves that but you get out what you put in, and as long as they wont see that there better than that as far as there conserned they never will be just like an anerexic super model as long as she thinks shes fat she is. its all personal perspective.lol wow im sorry ive gone on long enough your poem was great, just like i want you to see it from my perspective youve shown me yours in a very real and strong way thank you (Report)Reply

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  • (4/2/2009 10:17:00 PM)

    These are all sad, but true stories that keep repeating themselves.
    I hate these stories because everyone knows what has to be done.
    The solution is available for such tragedies as this. I thought you
    were very direct in your presentation and I like that directness.
    Bravo!

    GW62
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  • (3/28/2009 11:17:00 PM)

    the element of love is potrayed beautifully. a true love from the soul of woman can be seen. with small strkes oceans of meaning conveyed. (Report)Reply

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  • (3/25/2009 3:18:00 PM)

    a poem of a different kind of love, and a different look at poems for love. very good (Report)Reply

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  • Cheryl Davis Miller (3/25/2009 8:00:00 AM)

    Oh my, this brought back childhood memories of my mother.She must have been looking through the same eyes you described.Very well expressed, but very painful to those of us touched by this behavior.Keep speaking Londi. Cheryl (Report)Reply

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  • (3/25/2009 4:45:00 AM)

    Love is blind, a true write of what a heart will forgive. Thanks for the share (Report)Reply

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  • (3/24/2009 3:11:00 PM)

    A sad tale stuck in a vicious circle. You stepped out of the circle and conveyed this tragedy in a pure form that ignites emotion within the reader. Very nice write (Report)Reply

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  • (3/24/2009 8:02:00 AM)

    thats amazing! theres alot in that and its incredible! (Report)Reply

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  • (3/24/2009 7:58:00 AM)

    any man who beats a woman needs to be killed by my blade I don't care if the woman thinks she loves him or not it sickens me that they would even think about going back to him (Report)Reply

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  • (3/24/2009 6:37:00 AM)

    A truthful poem that also shows how love can entrap someone. It will allow you abuse that you should not have to recieve. Unfortunately, there are many people who are leaving in this exact situation. Still they must breakaway and look for tomorrow. Many of us develop a mindset that we can't live with out someone but if we are abused is that really living? Thank you for the invite. I look forward to reading more of your work. (Report)Reply

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  • (3/24/2009 3:47:00 AM)

    yes but as long as you stay with an abusive man you are blocking the way for a man who can truly love you and cherish you to get to know you. If you have a precious vase do you kick it round the room before praising it or do you treat it with the respect it deserves? It's easy to say 'I love you' but the proof is in how you treat the person. Think of someone you love....your mother maybe...would you ever hurt her? i don't think so...Please think of this next time someone hurts you...and please get help. Noone deserves to be treated abusively (Report)Reply

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Poem Submitted: Thursday, March 19, 2009



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